Escape Painful Sexual Intercourse and Vaginal Spasm

Dyspareunia, which is painful or difficult sexual intercourse, and vaginismus, contraction of the opening (mouth) of the vagina, making entry of the penis extremely difficult or impossible, are almost always of psychoneurotic origin. A rape, or a repugnant husband might predispose a woman to these disorders. Other psychoneurotic causes include a religious or rigid upbringing that considered sex shameful, a fear of sex, a defense mechanism against pregnancy, extreme over anxiety to have children, prudery, a woman's counter reactive response to husband whose body odor, bad breath, callousness, or insensitivity is odious, an impotent or anxious husband who infects her with his troubles.

Several physical determinants induce this condition as well, such the improper insertion of a diaphragm or intrauterine device (IUD); a prolapsed uterus or ovary, the remains of a hymen, the results of bad abortion, a marked disproportion of penis and vagina, old vaginal tears and scarring from childbirth, presence of disease such infection, endometriosis, fibroid tumors, dryness of vaginal mucosa resulting from lack of hormones or of proper stimulation, smegma (an ill-smelling, white, cheese like substance found around the external genitalia), and a loss of vaginal elasticity after menopause. In addition, a simple ignorance of sexual anatomy and function may provoke either disorder.

The major symptom, which leads to irritation and pain, is a lack of lubrication (precoital fluid) that is normally produced when a woman is aroused, making entry of the penis smoother and easier for both partners. The precoital fluid also lowers the acidity of the vagina so that the sperm can survive. The classic symptom is, of course, failure to orgasm.

Physical causes should, of course, be corrected. If the disorder is due to ignorance or insensitivity, the only answer is frank discussion or family counseling. If the cause are psychoneurotic, marriage counseling or professional therapy is well advised, particularly if the disorder is long-standing.

In mild cases, soothing ointments, sitz baths, and use of mild lubricant are effective. Feminine hygiene, which includes cleanliness and being clean-smelling, is essential for good health and physical attractiveness. If the labia are inflamed they should be kept clean and dry.

In general, intercourse should be suspended until all scars, inflammations, and irritations are healed. See your doctor immediately you. Sex is for marriage people so can enjoy it well when you have a wife and not a girlfriend.Decision Points